Friday, May 25, 2012

The Good Hair Debate

This was a review of a program previously watched on the Dr. Drew show

Okay first of all I am really feeling some kind of way regarding this title and the fact that we as African American women and men are still having this mindless superficial debate amongst ourselves. Yesterday on the Dr. Drew show LifeChangers he had Kim Cole and a another well know Youtube vlogger Himan10nence. they were guest along with several other black women who were there to discuss the issue of Good Hair, Nappy hair, Relaxers and Weaves.

I'll be honest I didn't watch all of the show but what I did see was enough. I think that this is a issue in the black community let alone the natural hair community that we have just about beat this dead horse to death. There were black men and women in the audience and the responses from the men were some that I had heard before. Either they don't like natural or prefer the long straight hair. Of course Derek J had too put his two cents in. He said that some natural hair is just unruly and that it needs a perm. Derek mentioned that he didn't think Natural hair was that big of a trend of something of that nature. "Hello!!!" you live in Atlanta home to some of the biggest natural hair shows around.

I really just had to step back for a moment and think why in the world are we as a people constantly debating on issues that constantly keep us divided. Light skin, Dark Skin, Nappy, Straight, Perm, Weave. UUUUUUUgggghhh really. At the end of the day it all balls down to loving who you are and not worrying about what someone else thinks of you.

The hair issue is a constant divide amongst black women. Is it really this serious y'all?


Alyssa said...

I think the issue is deeper than just "good"/"bad" hair and light/dark skin. There is an intense pressure on women (and men) in our society to be "beautiful"--whatever that means. So no matter how you are created, short or tall, light or dark, thin or thick, etc. our culture pressures us to manipulate our appearance to be more attractive and, in turn, better accepted or received. So we tan, we bleach, we press, we perm, we color, we manicure, we pedicure, we whiten teeth, we tuck our tummy, we lift our face. Good hair vs. bad hair is just one of a vast array of beauty issues.

Michell Pulliam said...

IKR! I personally believe if someone has an issue with someone else's looks, that's just it...THEIR issues and THEIR insecurities about themselves. They push their insecurities onto others and cripple them in the process. One minute you have someone who feels good about themselves and the next minute they start questioning if they're even good enough...all because we don't know how to heal our own insecurities. I so wish we can get to a point where we actually live out the Scriptures and know one another after the Spirit and NOT the flesh! Whew, sorry Ra-ra...didn't mean to go on rant! I, like you, am so tired of everyone defining what beauty is...when we're ALL fearfully and wonderfully made in His image! Thanks for sharing Ra-ra! :-D